“Be It Until You See It”: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
We’ve all been there—walking into a networking event, a big meeting, or a new job and feeling like we don’t belong. Imposter syndrome creeps in, whispering that we’re not qualified, not experienced enough, not the real deal. But here’s the truth: You don’t have to wait to feel like you’ve made it to start acting like you belong. You just have to be it until you see it—because confidence and success are built through action, preparation, and perception.
Embody Your Future Success with Preparation
Success doesn’t just happen—it’s built through preparation. The more you prepare, the more you diminish self-doubt. Whether it’s researching industry trends, practicing your elevator pitch, or reading about key players in your field, preparation transforms uncertainty into readiness.
Know Your Stuff: Stay informed about your industry. When you speak with confidence, others will see you as knowledgeable—even if you don’t have decades of experience.
Practice Makes Permanent: Rehearse introducing yourself, explaining what you do, and sharing your professional goals. The more you practice, the more natural it will feel.
Fake It Till You Make It? No—Act Like You Belong. You’re not faking it if you’re actively working toward your goals. You’re becoming the professional you aspire to be.
Does the Book Match the Cover?
Your outward appearance should reflect the professional you’re becoming. People make snap judgments based on how you present yourself, so ensure your cover matches the story you want to tell.
Dress for the Job You Want: If you want to be a leader, look like one. If you aim to work in a creative field, embody that creativity in your attire.
Social Armor: Your clothing is an extension of your personal brand. A well-tailored blazer, polished shoes, or a thoughtfully chosen accessory can boost confidence and change how others perceive you.
Posture & Presence: Stand tall, make eye contact, and walk with confidence. Even if you’re nervous inside, presenting yourself well can change how you feel and how others respond to you.
Talking to Yourself in the Mirror (Yes, Really!)
It may feel awkward at first, but practicing in front of a mirror helps you understand how you come across.
Do You Know What You Look Like When You Listen? Active listening is key to networking and relationship-building. Observe your own expressions—do you look engaged and approachable?
Work on Your Delivery: Watch your facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice. Adjust as needed to come across as confident and friendly.
Power Poses: Try standing in a power pose (hands on hips, shoulders back) before an event. It sounds silly, but studies show it boosts confidence!
Becoming a Connector—Not an Imposter
Here’s the ultimate trick to overcoming imposter syndrome: Stop focusing on yourself and start focusing on others. Networking isn’t about proving yourself—it’s about making connections.
Every Person You Meet is a Bridge: Each new conversation is an opportunity to learn and bring people together. Introduce people, make connections, and facilitate discussions.
When You Connect Others, You Belong: If you introduce Person A to Person B, you’re the common link—you’re already part of the network. You’re no longer an outsider; you’re a contributor.
Shift from Imposter to Asset: The moment you stop trying to “fit in” and start adding value, imposter syndrome fades. You’re no longer waiting for permission to belong—you’re actively shaping the space around you.
Overcoming imposter syndrome isn’t about pretending—it’s about stepping into your future self with confidence. Prepare, present yourself well, practice self-awareness, and become a connector. You’re not an imposter. You are already on the path to success. The only thing left to do is be it until you see it.